Heterofatalism

We will hardly believe the historians when they tell us about the old days of #MeToo and heterofatalism.

“Marriage is hell” jokes are symptomatic of heterofatalism, just like incels who love to mock straight culture and caricature straight people but simultaneously can't imagine living outside of it.

As many feminist critics of the phenomenon point out, "heterofatalism" is a dangerously superficial, performative disavowal of straightness: it's more affective than effective, since it does not lead to changing the status quo, but only to reinforcing it.

Maybe this is the utility of “heterofatalism” — naming the bitter pill before we force ourselves to swallow it and put on a carefree smile. […] One thing heterofatalism reflects is a persistent lack of faith that those we desire will be able to recognize us as commensurately human.