People-pleaser

So instead of learning to be myself, which would have been far more beneficial, I spent all my adolescent and early adult years trying to act outgoing and boisterous – constantly trying to shock and tease others (which is how my mom normally acts). As a result, I became a people-pleaser who couldn’t please most people! I inadvertently offended people instead of making them laugh.

People-pleasers tend to be overly focused on trying to fit in with those around them, and can “forget whether those behaviors even affect their goals or line up with their values.”

She sees Maddie as her younger self and Maddie’s therapist, Angelina, as the person she hopes she’s become today: still learning, but less of a people-pleaser, less afraid to ask for help and definitely less addicted to Dr Google.